Tony and I have put this off for way too long. But since we are going on a vacation with our little man soon, I figure it is time to just face it and do it.
Making a will is more complicted now that we have a kid. Now we have to decide who will raise him, express our wishes to those people on how we would like him raised (religion, schooling, money,etc. and hope they take our wishes into account) and what things we would like for him to have and when.
It's pretty complicated when you have two people from two different families trying to decide who would be the best choice to raise your child. Obviously, people are going to think this person or that person is a better choice but there are positives and negatives to everybody that is considered. We have to pick whoever will be best for our son's well-being. I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings but these decisions have been well thought out and talked about by Tony and I. And we have agreed on them. They have to be made with the information we have now, not the information we hope we'll have in 5 or 10 years. Everybody may not agree with our decisions but they are our decisions to make. We are not playing the you give me your kid and I'll give you my kid game. We are trying to make the right decision for Jax should anything happen to us.
We aren't doing this to please everybody or make people happy, we have to do what is best for our kid, long term, short term, all terms.